Woman Refuses to Attend Family Vacation After They Expect Her to Pay for Them, She Ditches Them at the Airport By Planning a Vacation With Her Husband

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 19, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Planning a family vacation takes time, effort, and dedication. Someone has to do it, and everyone should be involved with the planning. It's not always easy to combine everyone's work schedules and other life events, but people manage, and then have memories to share forever. The problem with family vacations is the family part. Intermingling these dynamics can cost more than the vacation is worth. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. In this story, the original poster (OP) claims that the yearly family vacations aren't what they used to be. With aging relatives and physical health going downhill, she's not so inclined to make them a priority. And to top it all off, her brother lacks the funds, meaning she'll have to cover the cost. She chooses the route of least resistance. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH⚫ 1 yr. ago lamevenbetterIRL AITAH - For ditching a family vacation in favor of going away with my husband?
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    Every year my family likes to plan a big vacation together. It is usually my mother, my sister, my brother and his wife, my daughter, her husband, and my grand baby, and finally me and my husband. We also have open invitations to other various relatives. This year they wanted to
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    do an All Inclusive resort in Aruba. It was settled and tickets were purchased. While I don't mind going on vacation with family I have some qualms with the various parties who are attending.
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    Let's start with my mother who is up in age, but hasn't really taken the best care of her body. So, she has weight problems that have affected her ability to walk. It has also led to sleep apnea. This means that she can't walk very far without taking tons of breaks and will fall asleep anywhere. Which isn't a problem except every time
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    we plan an activity that requires some level of physical fitness she discourages us from doing it and she can't take us having fun without her. So, we end up scraping our plans and doing whatever activity she feels she can do.
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    Then there is my brother who wants to go and can't afford his own way. This leads him to scrounge off my mother to find a way to go. Usually, it plays itself out as he says he is going. His ticket gets bought and everything else paid for and then my mother will have some sort of emergency
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    where we need to help her out. We basically end up giving her close to if not more than what it costs for my deadbeat brother to go. And then we spend the rest of the vacation paying for him and mom through meals, tickets to attractions, and anything else that tickles their fancy.
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    Now that you have some background let's get to the AH part. As we get closer to the trip I get rumblings of my mother needing the cash for house repairs, then my brother has to quit his job to go on the trip because "the man" won't let him. off, and my daughter and her husband book the honeymoon
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    suite. As all this is going down and we confirm flights, accommodations, and excursions I just nod my head and agree.
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    The day of the trip we all head to the airport and get through security. As everyone turns left to go to their gate, me and my husband turn the opposite way. They start quizzing us where we are going and we are getting something to eat can we bring them some. So, I just turn to them and say "we have decided to go
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    on a cruise out of Miami, see you guys in a couple weeks."
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    My daughter is irate and says "who is going to watch the baby while we enjoy our 2nd honeymoon." My mother is like who is going to pay for this for her and pay for that. My brother just looks dumbfounded like he just lost his pet. And they all start
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    to tell me how I am ruining there vacation and I am an AH and stuff. So, internet please pass judgement and let me know AITAH?
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    Current Can8134 . 1y ago • NTA They're at an all inclusive. They don't NEED to pay for meals etc. They'll be fine. They'll just have to spend the week around the pool taking care of themselves.
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    GonnaBeOverlt • 1y ago OP you are my hero that was epic!
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    Martha90815 • 1y ago • NTA and you are an absolute G for the last minute switcharoo! Nicely done!
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    tuna_tofu . 1y ago • You say "your family plans" but really WHO - your mom? The kids? Your husband? And who paid?
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    Holiday_Horse3... • 1y ago • I hope you had a great time!!! Well-planned.
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    Careless_League... • 1y ago • NTA and I hope you had a wonderful trip! Your family sound like a bunch of entitled AH honestly.
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    Deana-Marie 1y ago • Oh no, why is Wallet leaving?!
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    LeftPhilosopher... • 1y ago. WELL-PLAYED! NTA!!!
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    Effective-Several • 1y ago • NTA But you do have what little awards I can give. My hat is off to you. Nice how it played out, though.
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    Not, "Oh, we'll miss you! Hope you have a good time!" But "Who's going to pay for this? And for that?" And "Who's going to watch the baby while we enjoy out 2nd honeymoon?"
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